I have been on social media for more than a decade. When I created my first blog on blogger in 2004, the word social media was not even existing or may be it was there but surely it was not as popular as it is today. Now, I think I am every social media app that is popular or is worth being on. Facebook and Twitter are the two most popular one and most frequently used on and I check probably more than 10 times a day. But, I have been shying away from putting my opinion on any controversial topics on social media. My posts are very balanced on twitter and sanitized for universal public acceptance. On Facebook, it is all about random photographs of family (recently almost all my posts were about my daughter) and a few funny forwards or videos.
But my timeline on Facebook and Twitter is full of strong opinions and specially from those who have strong political views and hatred towards one or another group/communities/class. On Facebook, these people are someone who I know personally very well and I wonder how come this person be so stupid or bigoted. The sad part is that most of these people think that I am aligned to their belief as I do not do anything to disabuse them of these notions.
This was quite distressing so I decided to become more vocal, proactive and articulate about what I believe and what I stand for. There should be no confusion about this. It might come at some cost in terms of a few pissed off friends (or acquaintances) but this is a small price to pay for.
Now, I am much more vocal and suddenly my Facebook page, which was meant to connect with my friends and relatives, has become more than that. The primary purpose of being on Facebook is still to connect with my friends and family but now I am also using it for highlighting what I believe in.
Life in or around 40’s is quite unique. For many, this is the time when you are shaping up new lives as parents, at the same time you are preparing for emotional upheaval as close ones start their final journey. Life goals and ambitions are more realistic and most people are relatively more aware of their professional roadmap. This brings sometime a rare calmness and sometime a feeling of lack of fulfillment, failure and despondency.
As I step into my 40’s I am feel more happy thinking about my past then visualizing my future. The past for me is testimony of keeping a number of promises that I made to myself and my family. The future is a different story. The future is surely not what I had ever visualized. I never expected that I would be so helpless against the suffering of my mother. Agonizingly helpless. Nobody should go through such pain.
The cruel twist of destiny can change things so quickly. And, that highlights the futility of our efforts and planning.
Innocence, immaturity and insouciance are quite underrated assets in many contexts; these are often the key factors behind some of our biggest achievements and milestones. But with time, these assets are eaten away by our professional commitments, ambitions and properieties. Our responses become too calibrated; our actions become too calculated. We become more risk averse; we avoid confrontation and conflicts. We became too much concerned about what everyone thinks of us.
Something very similar happened to me a few years back, when I stopped blogging. In fact, I did not stop blogging but stopped opinionating as I continued to post “things” on blogs. I learnt the art of transforming emotional rabble-rousing outbursts into a diplomatic and politically correct, but impotent, comments. My fingers started to doodle instead of showing the middle finger to assholes. Did I gain anything out of that? Don’t know. Did I lose anything? A lot.
So it makes sense to go back to basics. This personal blog was an important part of what I am. It documented the started point of my journey so that I can look back and see how much I have travelled. Many who join in the journey midway, might never know from where did you start and they will never know why you look so tired and beaten. They have a look at your speed and not the distance covered. The starting point as well as the journey need to be documented. Not for others, but for my own stock taking. To understand the transformation, to understand the transfiguration.